I cannot think of nor imagine a more essential quality to a successful marriage than the quality of kindness. Our homes should be a safe haven where we can retreat when the pressures of life begin to close in on us. Kindness displayed to our spouse can bring great pleasure and reassurance in knowing that we are loved. Scripture tells us that it is the kindness of the Lord that leads men to repentance. It’s remarkable that the quality of kindness could break through every barrier that stands between us and a saving relationship with the Lord.

When we extend kindness to our spouse, we are exhibiting the very quality that God extends to us through His forgiveness of our sins. When we practice kindness with our spouse, it thaws the hardness of heart we often display towards each other. Kindness opens the door to forgiveness. When we are kind to our spouse after they hurt us, it melts away pride and ushers in humility. Kindness clears the way for restoration of a damaged relationship.

Recently both Jamie and myself have been through some difficult times emotionally. We have been careful to practice extreme kindness towards each other in our words and actions. The very simple act of kindness has made our situation bearable.

“Love is patient. LOVE IS KIND. Love isn’t jealous. It doesn’t sing it’s own praises. It isn’t arrogant. It isn’t rude. It doesn’t think about itself. It isn’t irritable. It doesn’t keep track of wrongs. It isn’t happy when injustice is done, but it is happy with the truth. Love never stops being patient, never stops believing, never stops hoping, never gives up. Love never comes to an end…” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

There is a clear parallel between love and kindness. Loving kindness is often used together. Kindness is a tangible act of love that we show our spouse.

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  1. As I was driving home one evening, the Holy Spirit minitered to me about being kind to my hubby. The HOLY SPIRIT impressed on my heart to continue doing things normally. While I wasn’t mean, I was slow in doing things for him like he was accustomed to.

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